How I meet Their Mother – A Date with my Wife

Picture 37I don’t get out a lot. Wait, that didn’t come out right. I don’t get to go out on dates with my wife a lot. It has become a lot easier in the last couple of years . A lot of that has to do with our wonderful oldest son, who at 15 does a pretty good job watching his younger siblings while his parents sneak out of the house for a while.

So on Sunday we went to an evening Mass at one of our local Parishes. (As a side note I am very happy this Mass exists since it gave us a chance to go to Mass together, even though I had to work this week. Thank you to the folks at Our Lady of Mercy for giving us this option.) After which we went out to dinner at Red Lobster with a gift card I got from my employer.

Normally I would not mention the restaurant but it plays an important part in this story. On the ride between Mass and dinner my lovely bride and I had the discussion, of where we would like to go. The gift card we were given was for the parent company of Red Lobster, Olive Garden and a few others, so we had some choices. We finally came to a conclusion when she said, “let’s do Red Lobster, it has been a long time since we have been there.” we rode a long in the relative quiet of the car for a little while as decision made we headed toward dinner.

The silence was broken when I said,

“You know, I think the last time we when to Red Lobster you threw up in my car.” A moment of thoughtful silence
“Wow, that date was before child #1, and I have thrown up so many time since then that I had forgotten about that.”
“Well I am glad we are now measuring time in numbers of times you have thrown up.”

Our conversation continued in the silliness for a while, but eventually lead us to a discussion of how we met and our feelings around that time.

Back when I looked like this,—->piza<—– and yes I am in this picture but I am not going to tell you which one, I met my wife. Techically this picture was taken after I met her but more on that in a few moments. Needless to say, it was a long time ago and very far away.

We got to talking about how we felt about each other in the time between when we met and when we actually started dating. It was a unique time in my life. We had lived in Germany for a number of years and knew that this was likely the last year we would be there so we were trying to cram as much as we could into it as possible, doing as many of the exciting things as we could. Clouded by time when I think back to when we lived there much of what I remember was that year.

That year was also the year that my wife moved to town. I have always maintained that the moment I met her I knew I wanted to be with her. And that really is mostly true, but as we talked about it, I discovered something a little bit different. Slightly Paraphrased:

Me: In October Andy suggest that we should maybe date.
My Wife: I wasn’t ready then.
Me: I know neither was I.
MW: You should not date someone unless you can see yourself married to them, and I could not see that in you yet.
Me: Right. By November though, I was pretty sure.
MW: [smile remembering it]
Me: and by The Christmas concert [smiling remembering the cookie that she had given me that I never ate because could eat it and have it too.] I knew for sure and I was just trying to figure out how to reconcile it with the rest of my life. And by the time I went to Italy I realized I wished I had brought you instead of my other friends
MW: That probably would not have gone over well with my Dad.

The point is that looking back on it, I remember thinking that I knew as soon as I met her, but really it wasn’t until later that I really understood what spending the rest of my life with her really meant. Now (22+ years from that Christmas concert) I can honestly say that I didn’t know what I was getting myself into, but it was the best misunderstood decision that I ever made.


People Going To Space

When I was a kid I wanted to do a lot of things, but chief among them was being an astronaut. My brother and I even build our own spaceship. We had big plans, we were going to Venus, we would plant trees and make it breathable in a few years. We at least knew enough that we needed something to convert the Carbon dioxide, but we were missing a few other facts, like a temperature of 460 C.

Image Credit: NASA
Image Credit: NASA
This first attempt obviously a bit amateurish, but give me a break we were only 8 and 6 at the time. By the way that is me in the front, he is in the “engineering spaces” in the back. You can just see him holding on to the brake. The ship was built from scrap parts that were laying around my the yard as my uncle build his house, where we spent a lot of weekends that summer. It was the early 80’s we had big imaginations.
100_4386 Skip ahead to the present. I still don’t see Star Fleet Headquarters on the shore here, but at least we have made some progress. Since then and now we have had a pretty successful shuttle program, that while it didn’t get us to any new planets or cool Venus down enough that my brother and I could plant those trees, it did teach us a lot about living and working in space. There were some bumps in the road, but as the Star Trek – Enterprise theme song so ably puts it, nothings going to hold me down. It says a lot of other things but that is the one I want to take away from this.
This past year we saw some incredible steps toward finally getting into space. The private companies, SpaceX and Virgin Galatic have made some impressive progress toward normal space travel, Notably with the dragon space craft docking with the international space station and the their new reusable rocket system. Again not traveling to other planet but a big step. This past year NASA also put on one of the greatest shows with their Curiosity rover, Landing on Mars.
It has been a great year for space travel. Here is looking forward to another very exciting year.

How to get your wife pregnant

I think I have finally figured out the mystery. So guys pay attention. Now understand this is second hand knowledge but it makes as much sense as anything else I have heard.

The other day one of my wife’s friends said she saw us holding hands and looking sweet. Then commented, “I bet I am going to get an e-mail saying she is pregnant soon.”

Sure enough my wife is pregnant. So now we know what causes that.

Holding hands and looking sweet.

so all you guys be warned.

Now I can answer the question, “you know what causes that right?”